Meet Jenn Wolfe: Your Partner in Transforming Relationships and Life

Jennifer Wolfe is a transformational coach who helps people heal attachment wounds, stop chasing emotionally unavailable partners, and create the safe, secure love they’ve always deserved.

Her unique approach weaves together nervous system regulation, attachment science, feminine energy healing, and deep spiritual clarity- so her clients can shift lifelong patterns and finally feel at home in themselves and in love.

Whether they’re navigating avoidant relationships, feeling lost in overgiving, or stuck in the cycle of self-abandonment, Jennifer’s clients learn to create secure, grounded connection from the inside out.

Her work doesn’t stop at love. Many of her clients go on to reclaim their voice, unlock their purpose, and lead lives that are emotionally safe, spiritually aligned, and radically fulfilling.

Jennifer lives in Los Angeles with her husband of 19 years, their two sons, and four fur babies. Together, she and her husband co-run a film production company and are committed to creating both personal and cultural transformation through story, art, and truth.

When you work with Jennifer, you’re not just healing your relationship- you’re rewriting your story.

Credentials:

  • Bachelor of Arts in Sociology
    University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA)

  • Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology
    Emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy, Professional Clinical Counseling, and Depth Psychology (Pacifica Graduate Institute)

  • Wayfinder Life Coach Training
    Completed under the guidance of renowned life coach Martha Beck

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Jenn’s Story

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What If Perfect Love Can’t Be Achieved by “Doing Everything Right”?

I used to believe that if I did everything “right,” life- and love- would unfold exactly as planned.

I knew how to succeed: set a goal, obsess over it, and achieve it. So when I got married, I brought that same mindset into my relationship. I became the “perfect wife”:

supportive, selfless, over-functioning. I thought if I showed up flawlessly, happiness would naturally follow.

But beneath all the striving was a part of me I was hiding- the anxious, tender, very human part. I had learned early on that being too emotional, too needy, or too much would push people away. So I masked my vulnerability and tried to be everything my husband could possibly want.

But instead of creating closeness, all that perfectionism only led to heartbreak—and eventually, betrayal.

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The Wake-Up Call

By the end of our first year of marriage, all my efforts to be “perfect” had backfired in a way I never expected.

My husband- an avoidant partner who valued space and independence- began to pull away. And the harder I tried to hold on, the more he distanced himself. Before I knew it, divorce papers were on the table.

I was heartbroken and confused. How could things go so wrong when I was doing everything “right”?

That’s when I finally saw what had been playing out underneath the surface. My anxious attachment had led me to chase an idea of “perfect love,” fueling my need to fix everything and avoid true vulnerability. In trying so hard to be the version of me I thought he wanted, I’d completely abandoned the real me.

I had hidden my messiness. My needs. My fears. The soft, beautiful, emotional truth of who I really was.

But love that’s earned through performance isn’t real love. And the more I masked who I was, the more I lost both myself, and the connection that once held our marriage together.

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The Turning Point

Everything changed when I stopped trying to be “perfect”… and started trying to be real.

I realized that the version of love I had been chasing wasn’t actually love—it was performance. It was rooted in fear, over-functioning, and the belief that I had to earn my place in someone’s life.

So I did something radical:
I turned inward.

Instead of trying to fix the relationship, I started healing the parts of me that believed I had to chase love to be worthy of it. I learned to regulate my nervous system. To feel safe in my own body. To create emotional security from within. And to stop abandoning myself in the name of being chosen.

That shift changed everything- in my marriage, in my business, and in my entire life.

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What I Know Now

Love isn’t about being perfect.
It’s about being present, authentic, and whole.

Today, I help people who are stuck in the same cycle I used to be in- chasing connection, shrinking to fit, feeling anxious and unseen in their relationships- break free and come home to themselves.

I know what it takes to heal anxious attachment.
I know how to stop attracting avoidant partners, or how to shift the dynamic if you’re already in one.
And I know how to build the kind of love that’s secure, healthy, and deeply fulfilling… because I live it every day.

Not because I fixed myself to be lovable…
But because I stopped abandoning myself to be loved.

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Why I Do This Work

Because I’ve lived the breakdown- and the breakthrough.

I know what it’s like to feel like you're too much and still not enough.
To keep giving, hoping, overthinking… only to end up hurt and questioning your worth.
And I also know what’s waiting on the other side:
A life where you feel safe in your body, clear in your mind, and fully loved for who you are.

This isn’t just about getting the relationship.
It’s about becoming the version of you who can receive it.

I created The Wolfe Method™ and my group program CHOSEN to walk you through the exact steps that changed everything for me, and for hundreds of clients around the world.

Because you deserve more than scraps.
You deserve to be seen. Safe. Chosen.
And it all starts with coming home to you.

If your heart is exhausted from chasing love or holding it all together… you’re not broken. You’re just ready for a new way.

Whether you’re navigating an avoidant partner, stuck in anxious patterns, or simply tired of settling—this is your invitation to choose yourself.

I’ve walked this path. And I’d be honored to walk it with you.